Why Slavery Has Never Been Abolished

The mechanics of abuse and (self) oppression.

It has always bothered me that modern society portrays abused women as victims and their male counterpart as evil oppressors, but rarely, if ever, there’s a conversation about the conditioning element that creates that kind of behavior. In this way, it does nothing to help these women but inadvertently only solidifies their abuse.

This is especially important because like anything else in our world, the effect is usually deemed as the underlying cause. In this way, one can never untangle themselves from the never ending perpetuated cycle of enslavement.

And so I wanted to take this opportunity and expand on the mechanics of abuse and (self) oppression beyond the narrow frame of a relationship between a man and a woman. To show how this mechanism underlies every relationships we have, even that beyond the transpersonal, such as our relationships to ourselves, our country, our institutions, our cultures and ideas.

Duality

To find some sort of foundation, there’s no better place to start than in understanding the mechanics of duality that exits in everything. That is, we are always in some kind of a relationship to something or someone. And in a relationship to something or someone, automatically a binary emerges: the subjective and the objective; the observer and the observed. Every phenomenon is a byproduct of such juxtaposition.

Every teacher needs a student. Every leader needs a follower. Every victim needs an abuser. Otherwise, their role cannot rise up to the surface. A leader cannot lead in a vacuum; when no one follows. In the same way, nothing can move forward without the consent of a recipient. Everything works on that universal principle. I cannot sell you a car if you don’t buy it. I cannot sell you a dream if you don’t buy into it. Alternatively, I cannot fool you if you don’t swallow the hook. I cannot abuse you if you respect yourself.

For most of us, the impression we have about who we are is determined by the coming together with the other. In other words, no one can really know who you are when you are alone with yourself, since their perception of you is always colored or filtered through the prism of the quantum (the relationship).

When one understands this and the coin drops, then arises the most important question of all: Who Am I?

Fear

Many people are overwhelmed by existential fears, dealing with the insecurity about facing life and having to survive independently: the fear of failure, the fear of tomorrow, the fear of inadequacy, fear, fear, fear. These fears become unbalanced and exaggerated over time. As a result, psychological conditioning is developed as strategies to hold onto things that are not necessarily healthy to one’s life as a means to relieve oneself from the existential insecurity. Things, such as: people, careers, environments and even concepts and ideas. The decision-making process is then entirely based on such disposition.

When people don't know who they are, since their perception of themselves is always determined by the relationships they have with others - since their time with themselves is insufficient and therefore have no established gravity center of their own - they will attract relationships which satiate their insecurities. In this way, they’re bound to be entangled in a vicious cycle of dependency. Battered women often go back to their abusive partners because the abuse is interpreted by the conditioned psyche as the least of two evils; where the fear of survival and confronting one’s existential insecurities outweighs the abuse.

The other side in the relationship recognizes this dependency, which oftentimes leads to rejection, exploitation and/or manipulation. In this way their role as an abuser emerges as a byproduct of the distortion. A reaction to the dissonance between the person they see in front of them to that of the habitual persona they’d assumed on themselves as a conditioning element.

In other words, the so-called “abuser” is reacting to the dependency and to the conditioning manifested as a portrayal of habitual insecurity to “hold onto at all costs in order be secure in life”. The self-reflected aspect of this mechanism is manifested in the people or the belief systems we draw into our lives, - an extension of the abuse to ourselves.

The Law of Oppression

Why is this important?

We live in times where the only narratives we have are narratives structured on the same psychological frameworks of abuse-victim relationship. Society tends to draw a line in the sand between an abuser (who’s usually depicted as a villain), and a victim (who’s usually depicted as a helpless pious), but the reality is that the only abuse is the abuse to ourselves due to lack of self knowledge.

At the moment, society is being hijacked by ‘mean-spirited’, emotional begetting that comes forth as a single-pointedness, amorphous singularity. Phrases such as: “the elite / the government / the left / the right / the patriarchy / the older generation / the rich / the white man / _________ [fill in the blank to whichever is relevant to your circumstances] are to blame” are becoming more and more prominent in the way to equalize one inner turmoil. The trouble is that they never do.

It’s easier because it constitutes centralization point which removes from people the need to find responsibility in themselves. But it has always been an illusion. The victim contributes to a deleterious effect which believes is coming from an abuser. If the individual doesn’t respect themselves first; if they aren't responsible for themselves first, their part of the bargain is not conducive anymore, but rather damaging to the whole. Responsibility always lies within the individual human being, because life is a byproduct of response.

Everyone talks about wars, about political issues, about Covid, about this thing and the other thing, everyone has their own plan and their own theory. Everyone sees that nothing is done the way they think things should be done. It always seems to people that others are doing things incorrectly, or that things could be done better.

But they do not understand, and do not want to understand, that what has been done, and especially what has already been done in one way, cannot be done and could not have been done any other way. Everything is done in the only possible way. If one thing could be different everything would be different.

All depends on everything else. Everything is connected. Nothing is separated even if it seems so on the surface. Everything goes the only way it can go. If people were different; If they weren't machines; if they were awake, if they were self-responsible everything would be different. But they are what they are, and what is happening in the world is just a reflection of lack of self-respect and personal responsibility

I always remind people that if they want a better government; more enlightened politicians and elected officials, it can only come about as a reflection of the public itself. The other way around is equally valid, because everything in the universe is built on the law of equalizing forces. Then one begins to understand why we have corruption abound; why there are corrupt politicians, corrupt policemen, corrupt judges and so on; why there are crooks in politics and business, and why everyone knows best how to lie to one another.

It's not like things are going to change. On the contrary, everything is going to get worse because human beings have allowed this reality to exist unabated through desensitized complacency and loss of personal responsibility long ago.

The law of oppression states that all those we see as our enemies in our life are simply a reflection of our own self-oppressions we carry within ourselves. And since the attention is directed at some undefined blob, as the source, entanglement is maintained. By that, one is unaware how they only solidify their own innate state of slavery, unconsciously giving power to those they direct their source of turmoil.

This exposes an inconvenient reality in which human beings, for the most part, aren’t interested in confronting the truth about themselves, even when they say they care for the truth. Sadly, it shows how most people don’t know who they are; are stuck in stagnation; unwilling or unable to face reality and therefore completely off the mark in lieu of what's coming.

If one wants to fight any worthy battle, first, one has rise up and wake up to themselves. They must know that everything always begins and ends with them, and that responsibility is first and foremost about self-responsibility; that If “I am not for me, who is for me? and if not now, when?!”

When that happens all enemies disappear.

For the first time in life they realize that there was never an enemy to begin with. That whatever Pharaoh figure they held in their mind as a blaming doll was merely an illusion made by them succumbing to their own fears, through which they have become complicit.